A Chat With Niks

Speaking from experience...
     I been writing this blog and realise it has become very therapeutic for me. SO i'll go on to say that being in a relationship it's never easy, many of times you put out and never get back, you second guess if the guy or girl is for you.  Now I'm not a expert on giving relationship advice nor have i been in the best relationships. However I can lend a finger to my experiences.
     Fellas it is really quite simple 1. Honesty - honesty is the best way to start off any relations whether it be friendship or courtship. 2. Trust - don't enter a relationship feeling like the next girl gonna do you wrong like your last ex. 3 Respect - everyone has boundaries just don't cross them.
4. LOYALTY - now loyalty is very hard to come by these days and it is a big deal to me... if you have a girl sticking by you the entire relationship supporting, loving, trusting and giving her all to you....what's so hard??? Just return the favor rite back after all... you are in the relationship for the long hall not so??? 5. Responsibility never blame yourself, or take responsibility as if you are alone in the relationship. A relationship a not a one way street its a TWO WAY one, both hands need to work together to have a greater end result. 6. LOVE -  in everything that you do show love, be understanding, just be there even when you don't completely understand what's wrong...because lets be honest us as women... sigh...our moods can be all over the place.

Men Forget the Tag Lines...One Liners & Be Real!

Some may say Steve Harvey is a "kicks man" but in reality, he speaks the truth. The man has so much wisdom I hope that some men can take a page out of his book and simply just do half of the things he talks about.

In the video below Steve speaks on how to deal with a woman that you are interested. With the hope of speaking to her for the first time.

Now Steve has very interesting ways of dealing with a situation.. On one hand in the video I think it might work but for me.....I might just think you are a stalker...Unless he's smooth and very confident in they way he handles himself, which is a great plus when it comes to me.

One liners NEVER work.. SO MEN DON'T EVER TRY.  Also STOP trying to just "get into women pants"....We know when it's just about doing dirt. Unless he's a con then...there's no way of knowing.

However.......

However why subject yourself to one meal when you can have a lifetime of 5 (five) star meals. (yummmm!!!!)

Honesty can take you everywhere, so don't limit your vocabulary to a mouth full of tireless liezz....There can only be two answers Yes or No it's that simple simple if she does not interest and does not respond, then simply move on...learn from where you went wrong and try again...

Love Is Like A Flower

I believe Love is like a flower, for with proper nurturing it can bloom and flourish as each day goes by. However when the flower (relationship) is neglected in a matter of time it soon withers and dies. 

All relationships take time and effort from both parties. When the flower is treated with patience and care there is a blooming effect. Keeping the relationship vibrant and alive can take long hours. But the end result can be a healthy, well nourished flower.

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Sow the seeds that you will want to reap for Love can last as long as we want it too...don't ever plant seeds to watch them wither and choke because love can be destroyed with a tornado of hate leaving you in a desperate despair.

Putting in the work is as hard as its going to get, but if you do your part and give it all the love and attention that you can...sit back and watch a love like no other...

A love that you have never experienced...

TO LISTEN OR NOT TO LISTEN????....THAT IS THE QUESTION...

      For as long as I could remember the listening factor in relationships has always been a challenge, for both the male an female species.
However when a woman is having a conversation with her husband, boyfriend or even girlfriend...(hides face) he/she should allow the person to express themselves.
       One should be able to express themselves without without being judged  and treated differently because of their feelings and opinions. can Doing this enables her to feel validated. This listening method can be applied to both parties.

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Men Confidence Can Take You A Long Way...

Like most women, I prefer a confident man, not cocky. Some might say that being confident is the same as being cocky but its not. I think that a woman can tell the difference between being cocky and confident, being cocky comes from a place of vanity, arrogance where as confidence is knowing what you are, what you have and don't need self assurance.

A woman loves a man who can be comfortable in his own skin, this can make us feel safe and protected. Nothing is sexier!.

Be loyal don't give her any reason to doubt you.

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MEN...DON'T WANT TO BE NAGGED..."JUST DO IT!!"

Lately I have noticed men calling women "NAGS" Men its simple.. Just do as you say. 

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Men if you say that you are going to do something, word of advice? be like NIKE and "JUST DO IT" There is nothing worse than saying you're going to do a task and you don't do it.  If you are planning on doing a task or asked to do such, do it, no excuses, no frowns, do it with joy. Also never just agree to keep the peace, this will NEVER work. However if you are unable too, nicely say No, your significant other may be upset, but she will respect, understand your decision.