TOP 5 First Date Ideas

I spoke on Do's and Don'ts of first dates...However what about dating ideas...Well i came up with 5 ideas that I think would be great first dates for you guys and gyals trying to get back out there..

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1. Go to a dance class....

Trying something new can turn out to be a good idea for both parties...doing something like taking a dancing class can help you to loosen up and show your that you are both spontaneous and willing to do fun activities...even if it means making a complete fool of yourself on the dance floor.

2. Go to a movie or concert

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Yes I know, movies are always the go too..But I'm a big movie fan...and watching a movie can help build up conversations and take away that awkward feeling of not know what to say.

3. Take a cooking class

Taking a cooking class can let you show off your skills if you have any or learn a new one. This date idea can also be a conversation builder. Allowing a flow on various topics...and won't leave you feeling awkward and unsure as to what can be said.

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4. Meeting for Coffee

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A meeting for coffee in the morning or mid day can provide little risks, it is inexpensive and there are fewer distractions to make the date less like a disaster..Yes a coffee date can seem more friendly..however choosing an environment with a much more intimate setting will help out the situation. Also with a day time, it allows you to have a quick escape if the dates goes left!

5. Fun Park / Zoo

You may say "Whattt!! The Zoo, The Fun Park"..... "are we kids??" No you aren't! but it is an activity that both men and women can enjoy. We all have that inner kid in us, that just wants to come out and play. This type of date allows you to see a more adventurous side to them and create conversations for the drive home.

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Advice from inside Costaatt Walls....

Coming up with the collaboration idea was not that hard for me I knew what I wanted, I just had to execute it. So... Moving forward we being myself and LostInTheDream Kareem Mohammed, will ask individuals questions around campus for relationship advice. I asked a few of my fellow class mates to part take and they obliged.....This video ended up being better than I thought, and it brought great insights on how I viewed some of my classmates...It was hilarious and think that this would be quite informative to some...We all had different point of views and I thought that this was the best way to put it together and with all relationships being different I knew this would be the best way to inform people. Hope yall enjoy......

Do's and Don'ts For dating

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I will keep saying i'm not a relationship advice expert...but i do have experience which can go a looooonngggggg...way!! Experiences and circumstances makes us who we are...So with that said here is a little advice to you guys...or even gals..

• Never invite a girl over to your home on a first date....It's going to be an immediate no way Jose!! taking a woman home on a first date is very baddd idea....If you invite a woman to your house she's gonna think that she is just a booty call!

• Going to a restaurant can be a good and a bad... If you are going to a restaurant make it that 1 you aren't spending too much... cuzz you never know where the date will go, 2 forget fast food altogether...unless she's into that kinda stuff...then go for it!!

• NEVER by all means NEVER bring up your exes...unless the girl asks... no one wants to hear about old news...or be compared to your last ex that SCREWED you over!! and if the convo goes there speak briefly and move on make the date about her.

• FLOWERS are always a plus! Or something that you know she might like...this shows you have paid attention to stuff she likes and takes her feelings into consideration.

• Compliments... Now compliments can make a woman feel special..it wud make her see that you notice her...that all the time she spent getting ready for the date was not in vain...tell her about her dress..even her hair....women loves to feeel adored.

• Please dress the part! no woman...NONE!!!wants to see a man poorly dressed and one that looked like he took little to no time to get his look together...Like we discussed previously a confident man is a great man.....He knows his worth and it will show in his attire.

• Show interest in things she like listen to her go on and on about her ridiculous day.. or boring one which ever it may be... just listen and who knows a second date will hopefully be in your cards!

I'll  stop here... cuz i can go on and on!!! But this is jus a little advice that can take you at least to a second date.. So GOOD LUCK!!!

THIS ONE IS FOR THE LADIES...... HOW CAN YOU APPEAR UNATTRACTIVE???

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Ladies we cannot keep blaming the men we too play a role in how the fellas deals with us..But question what are some of the things we do to make us unattractive to men??
     1. Being too into ourself..some of us are so self absorbed that we can even see others thinking that we are better than every guys that comes up to us.

     2. Today our outer appearance and materialistic items mean more to some ladies than whats on the inside. A lot of times we tend to focus on the unimportant things such as "fleeky eyebrows" what does that have to do with anything. Men look at whats on the inside, not our eyebrows and how on fleek they are.

     3. You are dishonest i really don't think this needs any explanation....
no one wants to be around a "Negative Nancy" who constantly makes an issue, keeps putting things down or even look at situations from the negative light instead of positive.

4. Being rude to people is a not a very nice quality to have as young woman, who's tryna "get a man' be humble, listen, respect others opinions and boundaries.

5. being a social media junkie is not very appealing... I know it is very hard as Social Media is taking everything and everyone's mind by storm...however we need to have a balance of our realistic life and the social media one. All the snapping and IG posting will continue to grow but your relationship will not if you as sooo caught up in that life..

A Chat With Niks

Speaking from experience...
     I been writing this blog and realise it has become very therapeutic for me. SO i'll go on to say that being in a relationship it's never easy, many of times you put out and never get back, you second guess if the guy or girl is for you.  Now I'm not a expert on giving relationship advice nor have i been in the best relationships. However I can lend a finger to my experiences.
     Fellas it is really quite simple 1. Honesty - honesty is the best way to start off any relations whether it be friendship or courtship. 2. Trust - don't enter a relationship feeling like the next girl gonna do you wrong like your last ex. 3 Respect - everyone has boundaries just don't cross them.
4. LOYALTY - now loyalty is very hard to come by these days and it is a big deal to me... if you have a girl sticking by you the entire relationship supporting, loving, trusting and giving her all to you....what's so hard??? Just return the favor rite back after all... you are in the relationship for the long hall not so??? 5. Responsibility never blame yourself, or take responsibility as if you are alone in the relationship. A relationship a not a one way street its a TWO WAY one, both hands need to work together to have a greater end result. 6. LOVE -  in everything that you do show love, be understanding, just be there even when you don't completely understand what's wrong...because lets be honest us as women... sigh...our moods can be all over the place.

Men Forget the Tag Lines...One Liners & Be Real!

Some may say Steve Harvey is a "kicks man" but in reality, he speaks the truth. The man has so much wisdom I hope that some men can take a page out of his book and simply just do half of the things he talks about.

In the video below Steve speaks on how to deal with a woman that you are interested. With the hope of speaking to her for the first time.

Now Steve has very interesting ways of dealing with a situation.. On one hand in the video I think it might work but for me.....I might just think you are a stalker...Unless he's smooth and very confident in they way he handles himself, which is a great plus when it comes to me.

One liners NEVER work.. SO MEN DON'T EVER TRY.  Also STOP trying to just "get into women pants"....We know when it's just about doing dirt. Unless he's a con then...there's no way of knowing.

However.......

However why subject yourself to one meal when you can have a lifetime of 5 (five) star meals. (yummmm!!!!)

Honesty can take you everywhere, so don't limit your vocabulary to a mouth full of tireless liezz....There can only be two answers Yes or No it's that simple simple if she does not interest and does not respond, then simply move on...learn from where you went wrong and try again...

Love Is Like A Flower

I believe Love is like a flower, for with proper nurturing it can bloom and flourish as each day goes by. However when the flower (relationship) is neglected in a matter of time it soon withers and dies. 

All relationships take time and effort from both parties. When the flower is treated with patience and care there is a blooming effect. Keeping the relationship vibrant and alive can take long hours. But the end result can be a healthy, well nourished flower.

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Sow the seeds that you will want to reap for Love can last as long as we want it too...don't ever plant seeds to watch them wither and choke because love can be destroyed with a tornado of hate leaving you in a desperate despair.

Putting in the work is as hard as its going to get, but if you do your part and give it all the love and attention that you can...sit back and watch a love like no other...

A love that you have never experienced...