Conclusion of Chicks With Niks

Where should i begin??? Hmmm...the first few days of blogging I was like...what madness...this is rell work, although my thoughts didn't change that much from my original thought...it still ended up being therapeutic       I guess...putting my thoughts down and actually having people view my blog was interesting I must say...blogging is something that I can get into but...it will have to be my ONLY job...lol...or maybe a hobbie...it was quite time consuming yet still fun...

The collaborations I think were the best for me..meeting with friends doing blogs/vlogs and intertwining our separate views and making it into one turned out awesome...I won't discourage anyone that wants to do a blog...fb page or even instagram because I learnt alot from all the social media networks and I have seen upfront the benefits of using it...I'm not sure if i'll continue but if i do continue blogging you can tune in for more...

Can Dinner Dates Be A Good Date or A Disaster

I found that my last interviews did soo well, that I decided to take it back to COSTAATT and the students as always had so much to say and so willing...Foodography Tracey Thomas and I had a great time doing this so Please do enjoy :)

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Stating Your Purpose Upfront...

Men / Women... please, please, pleaseee!! state what is you purpose upfront, it makes no sense getting into a relationship and you have no intentions of staying with that individual or being even being committed to them. If your intention is to juss "hit and quit"..... Better you quit before your'e ahead, it is better to not have any bandaids to pull off. Be real, open and upfront about your feelings and what you want out of the relationship. Don't drag the person along and don't friend zone anyone intentionally or unintentionally, remember it is a two way street and their are real people with real feelings involved....

TOP 5 First Date Ideas

I spoke on Do's and Don'ts of first dates...However what about dating ideas...Well i came up with 5 ideas that I think would be great first dates for you guys and gyals trying to get back out there..

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1. Go to a dance class....

Trying something new can turn out to be a good idea for both parties...doing something like taking a dancing class can help you to loosen up and show your that you are both spontaneous and willing to do fun activities...even if it means making a complete fool of yourself on the dance floor.

2. Go to a movie or concert

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Yes I know, movies are always the go too..But I'm a big movie fan...and watching a movie can help build up conversations and take away that awkward feeling of not know what to say.

3. Take a cooking class

Taking a cooking class can let you show off your skills if you have any or learn a new one. This date idea can also be a conversation builder. Allowing a flow on various topics...and won't leave you feeling awkward and unsure as to what can be said.

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4. Meeting for Coffee

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A meeting for coffee in the morning or mid day can provide little risks, it is inexpensive and there are fewer distractions to make the date less like a disaster..Yes a coffee date can seem more friendly..however choosing an environment with a much more intimate setting will help out the situation. Also with a day time, it allows you to have a quick escape if the dates goes left!

5. Fun Park / Zoo

You may say "Whattt!! The Zoo, The Fun Park"..... "are we kids??" No you aren't! but it is an activity that both men and women can enjoy. We all have that inner kid in us, that just wants to come out and play. This type of date allows you to see a more adventurous side to them and create conversations for the drive home.

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Advice from inside Costaatt Walls....

Coming up with the collaboration idea was not that hard for me I knew what I wanted, I just had to execute it. So... Moving forward we being myself and LostInTheDream Kareem Mohammed, will ask individuals questions around campus for relationship advice. I asked a few of my fellow class mates to part take and they obliged.....This video ended up being better than I thought, and it brought great insights on how I viewed some of my classmates...It was hilarious and think that this would be quite informative to some...We all had different point of views and I thought that this was the best way to put it together and with all relationships being different I knew this would be the best way to inform people. Hope yall enjoy......

Do's and Don'ts For dating

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I will keep saying i'm not a relationship advice expert...but i do have experience which can go a looooonngggggg...way!! Experiences and circumstances makes us who we are...So with that said here is a little advice to you guys...or even gals..

• Never invite a girl over to your home on a first date....It's going to be an immediate no way Jose!! taking a woman home on a first date is very baddd idea....If you invite a woman to your house she's gonna think that she is just a booty call!

• Going to a restaurant can be a good and a bad... If you are going to a restaurant make it that 1 you aren't spending too much... cuzz you never know where the date will go, 2 forget fast food altogether...unless she's into that kinda stuff...then go for it!!

• NEVER by all means NEVER bring up your exes...unless the girl asks... no one wants to hear about old news...or be compared to your last ex that SCREWED you over!! and if the convo goes there speak briefly and move on make the date about her.

• FLOWERS are always a plus! Or something that you know she might like...this shows you have paid attention to stuff she likes and takes her feelings into consideration.

• Compliments... Now compliments can make a woman feel special..it wud make her see that you notice her...that all the time she spent getting ready for the date was not in vain...tell her about her dress..even her hair....women loves to feeel adored.

• Please dress the part! no woman...NONE!!!wants to see a man poorly dressed and one that looked like he took little to no time to get his look together...Like we discussed previously a confident man is a great man.....He knows his worth and it will show in his attire.

• Show interest in things she like listen to her go on and on about her ridiculous day.. or boring one which ever it may be... just listen and who knows a second date will hopefully be in your cards!

I'll  stop here... cuz i can go on and on!!! But this is jus a little advice that can take you at least to a second date.. So GOOD LUCK!!!

THIS ONE IS FOR THE LADIES...... HOW CAN YOU APPEAR UNATTRACTIVE???

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Ladies we cannot keep blaming the men we too play a role in how the fellas deals with us..But question what are some of the things we do to make us unattractive to men??
     1. Being too into ourself..some of us are so self absorbed that we can even see others thinking that we are better than every guys that comes up to us.

     2. Today our outer appearance and materialistic items mean more to some ladies than whats on the inside. A lot of times we tend to focus on the unimportant things such as "fleeky eyebrows" what does that have to do with anything. Men look at whats on the inside, not our eyebrows and how on fleek they are.

     3. You are dishonest i really don't think this needs any explanation....
no one wants to be around a "Negative Nancy" who constantly makes an issue, keeps putting things down or even look at situations from the negative light instead of positive.

4. Being rude to people is a not a very nice quality to have as young woman, who's tryna "get a man' be humble, listen, respect others opinions and boundaries.

5. being a social media junkie is not very appealing... I know it is very hard as Social Media is taking everything and everyone's mind by storm...however we need to have a balance of our realistic life and the social media one. All the snapping and IG posting will continue to grow but your relationship will not if you as sooo caught up in that life..

A Chat With Niks

Speaking from experience...
     I been writing this blog and realise it has become very therapeutic for me. SO i'll go on to say that being in a relationship it's never easy, many of times you put out and never get back, you second guess if the guy or girl is for you.  Now I'm not a expert on giving relationship advice nor have i been in the best relationships. However I can lend a finger to my experiences.
     Fellas it is really quite simple 1. Honesty - honesty is the best way to start off any relations whether it be friendship or courtship. 2. Trust - don't enter a relationship feeling like the next girl gonna do you wrong like your last ex. 3 Respect - everyone has boundaries just don't cross them.
4. LOYALTY - now loyalty is very hard to come by these days and it is a big deal to me... if you have a girl sticking by you the entire relationship supporting, loving, trusting and giving her all to you....what's so hard??? Just return the favor rite back after all... you are in the relationship for the long hall not so??? 5. Responsibility never blame yourself, or take responsibility as if you are alone in the relationship. A relationship a not a one way street its a TWO WAY one, both hands need to work together to have a greater end result. 6. LOVE -  in everything that you do show love, be understanding, just be there even when you don't completely understand what's wrong...because lets be honest us as women... sigh...our moods can be all over the place.

Men Forget the Tag Lines...One Liners & Be Real!

Some may say Steve Harvey is a "kicks man" but in reality, he speaks the truth. The man has so much wisdom I hope that some men can take a page out of his book and simply just do half of the things he talks about.

In the video below Steve speaks on how to deal with a woman that you are interested. With the hope of speaking to her for the first time.

Now Steve has very interesting ways of dealing with a situation.. On one hand in the video I think it might work but for me.....I might just think you are a stalker...Unless he's smooth and very confident in they way he handles himself, which is a great plus when it comes to me.

One liners NEVER work.. SO MEN DON'T EVER TRY.  Also STOP trying to just "get into women pants"....We know when it's just about doing dirt. Unless he's a con then...there's no way of knowing.

However.......

However why subject yourself to one meal when you can have a lifetime of 5 (five) star meals. (yummmm!!!!)

Honesty can take you everywhere, so don't limit your vocabulary to a mouth full of tireless liezz....There can only be two answers Yes or No it's that simple simple if she does not interest and does not respond, then simply move on...learn from where you went wrong and try again...

Love Is Like A Flower

I believe Love is like a flower, for with proper nurturing it can bloom and flourish as each day goes by. However when the flower (relationship) is neglected in a matter of time it soon withers and dies. 

All relationships take time and effort from both parties. When the flower is treated with patience and care there is a blooming effect. Keeping the relationship vibrant and alive can take long hours. But the end result can be a healthy, well nourished flower.

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Sow the seeds that you will want to reap for Love can last as long as we want it too...don't ever plant seeds to watch them wither and choke because love can be destroyed with a tornado of hate leaving you in a desperate despair.

Putting in the work is as hard as its going to get, but if you do your part and give it all the love and attention that you can...sit back and watch a love like no other...

A love that you have never experienced...

TO LISTEN OR NOT TO LISTEN????....THAT IS THE QUESTION...

      For as long as I could remember the listening factor in relationships has always been a challenge, for both the male an female species.
However when a woman is having a conversation with her husband, boyfriend or even girlfriend...(hides face) he/she should allow the person to express themselves.
       One should be able to express themselves without without being judged  and treated differently because of their feelings and opinions. can Doing this enables her to feel validated. This listening method can be applied to both parties.

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Men Confidence Can Take You A Long Way...

Like most women, I prefer a confident man, not cocky. Some might say that being confident is the same as being cocky but its not. I think that a woman can tell the difference between being cocky and confident, being cocky comes from a place of vanity, arrogance where as confidence is knowing what you are, what you have and don't need self assurance.

A woman loves a man who can be comfortable in his own skin, this can make us feel safe and protected. Nothing is sexier!.

Be loyal don't give her any reason to doubt you.

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MEN...DON'T WANT TO BE NAGGED..."JUST DO IT!!"

Lately I have noticed men calling women "NAGS" Men its simple.. Just do as you say. 

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Men if you say that you are going to do something, word of advice? be like NIKE and "JUST DO IT" There is nothing worse than saying you're going to do a task and you don't do it.  If you are planning on doing a task or asked to do such, do it, no excuses, no frowns, do it with joy. Also never just agree to keep the peace, this will NEVER work. However if you are unable too, nicely say No, your significant other may be upset, but she will respect, understand your decision.

CHICKS WITH NIKS INTRODUCTION

 My blog Chicks with Niks is dedicated to helping men learn more about their significant other. This blog will help men discover more about their ladies and how their minds tend to work. I have realised that today's men are having trouble with want a woman will want from what a woman will need in a relationship. As the weeks go by I'm going to be giving tips, advice and solutions to everyday problems that may arise. Chicks with Niks will not only feature my voice, but others in society from all walks of life. Chicks with Niks blog was started for my Social Media class but has turned into is a blog that I will continue doing. Please check out my blog and continue reading for more fun and exciting things

How To Make Your Lady Feel Secure

“Insecure” vs being “Aware” 

According to Elite Man Magazine Cheyenne Bostock says.......

There is a difference between a woman being “insecure” vs being “aware”. When she’s aware, there’s evidence that confirms her suspicion(s) about your behavior. 

When she’s insecure, there may be only speculation that stems from her lack of stability or ability in herself.  Either way, it’s important to acknowledge the things that make your significant other
feel insecure by making conscious decisions that affect the relationship.

How to discover the Men from the Boys

Men when investing in your lady, there is no better way to say I LOVE YOU than to show her that you are serious by building her a home.